Today I went to visit one of my friends Dal. He is currently in the Ashley Ainsley Rehab hospital because he suffered a stroke from his third brain surgery to completely remove his brain tumour. I could call him a member but its a bit more than that now. I took Cesar as he wanted to come visit him with me. I was pleased he asked as they are both going through their own challenges be it in completely different ends of the spectrums.
Catching up with Dal and shooting the shit about me, Cesar and him and challenges we had before us, are dealing with just now and the challenges that are to come I was struck by this, we are all going through our own battles in our head.
For Dal it is not the rehab that is the challenge, he has done that before, he has trained with us and the training has left an imprint on him and he will be able to draw on his past experience’s to keep moving forward. The real challenges that are going to be faced will be in the head. The ups and downs of it all are tough and I know it I have gone through it all with him before and this time its harder. For Dal the battle will be keep on enduring, keep moving forward, pick himself up on the low days and stop himself getting carried away on the high days. Talking finding an outlet and getting things off your chest will always help.
For Cesar on his intensive training block just now, when fatigue kicks in or when he just cant strike up the will too, keep eating well, not staying up too late, come in to his 2nd session of the day even when he is not feeling it. Or keeping managing his busy routine of working, studying, training, and nutrition. Staying strong and steadfast will be the true battle in his mind to keep progressing and seeing this 3 months through.
I have got the group photo of my GymJones Intermediate Seminar up here as the header for this post for many reasons. The first is that it gave me a massive sense of empowerment. I went away from that week of training and the weekend seminar with a feeling of empowerment and strength that I used to power me through a whole years working, training and getting me through some massive ups and downs.
It struck me tonight as I went through another little down moment, the usual Sunday night stuff that everyone goes through that the real battle we go through is not with our body but inside our head.
The battle of not seeing results, of stagnating, of still being not happy with your body, unfit, or your strength is lacking. You should take a breath and realise that the problem is not with your body but with your head.
Many people tell me that they don’t have time to train, then I say why don’t you come to my 6am class? They normally respond with don’t be silly I couldn’t get up at that time. It would mean getting up at 5am and then a whole days work.
Look at the problem, maybe you need to invest more time in your training, maybe you need to sacrifice a bit more, time in bed, social life, drinking, dinners out, spend more time putting the work in, invest in yourself, your body, your mind, your health.
If I have learnt anything this past 5 years, it is this, a life of exercise, resistance training, challenges, trying to lead, coach, learning from mistakes getting over big lows and keeping my head level on those big highs can have a massive positive effect on your mental strength, will power, drive, persistence and just ability to endure and keep going.
For me the next 3 months are all about seeing what we can do, physically with my training, my strength and fitness, and stopping drinking for 3months will help this but also in really being present coaching, and enjoying as much of it as possible, helping people get stronger and fitter and battle through challenges in the gym which will lead them to be stronger to face those challenges outside of the gym.
So next time you are facing a challenge whatever it is, weight on the bar, time on the rower, or any of the myriad outside of the gym remember the real battle is inside your head and you can win it. I know I am.
Recently I started a new 3 month training cycle at hashtagbobsgarage I train 9 times per week (could end being 10 if I make the Saturday a double). 5 Strength sessions and 4 Cardio sessions. 4 days of the week twice per day and one day only once (Saturday). Wednesday and Sunday are resting days, and hence, sacred. Maximum thing to do, go for a walk.
Why I’m doing this? There’s the obvious answers: losing weight and getting fitter, and I’ve to admit that I expect some of that.
But those are not the main reason, the main reason is, and always has been, the challenge itself. Will I be able to keep this for 12 weeks? The body seems to hold but will the mind be able to keep up? Right now I’m on the 4th week. A mixture of heavy weight training with finisher workouts and cardio sessions that are just that involve sweating alot.
And people ask me “How you do it?”
My answer is clear “Because I can”. There’s no cockiness there, simply my job allows me to do that, going to the gym twice a day (walking both times, adding around 40-50 min of walking to the day) The training built up with Bob over the last two years and the accompanied discipline has helped me do this. It hasn’t happened over night.
I like to dabble into stoicism and one of its core concepts is that you only have real control about the things you do, about yourself, most of the other things, you don’t have control about. Only with proper judgement and putting aside the base instincts we can understand and get ready for what the world will throw at us.
Just a few days after the beginning of the training my right shoulder got injured (still is). So one of my favourite exercises (and one that I’m decent at), the bench press got out. I can do everything else, but just the angle I used to put my shoulder was wrong and finally the shoulder gave up. It’s getting better, but still is what it is.
What can I do about it? Do my best to rehab it and keep with the program the best I can. There are millions of exercises you can do for your chest, so if I can’t do bench, I’ll do something else. I’ll bench much lower to relearn. Maybe tomorrow I’m going to the gym, a hipster hits me with his ironical Segway and hurts my leg. What I would do then? Keep going to the gym and keep with the program the best I can.
That’s the real challenge for me, that’s what I want to achieve. For me it’s been always of utmost importance crossing the door of the gym. Of course in the last four weeks there have been many, many times when I wanted to stop doing whatever I was doing. When going to the gym was a drag. When I wanted to cut the reps and do less sets. But then I remember that if I do it, if I stop, I’d fail. It doesn’t matter how much weight I had already lost or how good my squat is now or anything, stopping means failure. I don’t want to fail. I’ll stop if I feel pain, if something is not working properly, but I won’t stop because my mind surrendered to fear.
Why I chose that target? Because it is something that has nothing to do with absolutely anything else than my mind.
That doesn’t change the fact that when the other day I dropped below 115 kilos for the first time in a long long time I didn’t feel really proud. I did. I loved it. But it’s just a number. It’s just a measure. It’s not a target. I could be more proud about the fact that since I began at the gym I must have lost around a 10% of body fat. That’s even better than losing weight because that meant I have increased my muscle mass and decreased my body fat.
But I don’t let those numbers distract me, neither the amount of weight I can move. Yes, doing squats with 170 kilos felt good, but not because of the weight, but because of all the hard work behind those reps.
I also changed my diet, stopped doing a half hearted keto diet (which in the past worked really well for me, but not this time) to a proper balanced diet. With a calories deficit, of course, but with carbs and everything. It’s the only way I know to be able to keep up with all the extra exercise. Maybe others have other ways, this one is mine.
And let me be honest: I could do better at the diet, it’s still a work in progress and the problem of working at home is that you end eating a little more than expected. But I know that, and I let it pass most of the time because it’s not that much and also because it’s not the main thing: the main thing is being able to keep going to the gym those 9 sessions per week.
I nearly stopped smoking (I never smoked much anyway, 3-4 fags per day, 10 weekends), I only smoke Saturday night, when I go out (and obviously I smoke less), rest of the time I use a vaper with a very low nicotine liquid (I know it’s not perfect but…). Saturday night the only night I go out, and try to have diet cokes, at least a few of them instead of alcoholic drinks. It’s my “reward” for the week, or more or less the way I have to keep the monkey we all have in our brains quiet. I don’t order take away food or go to the chippy at all. I don’t drink alcohol in the house (well that was easy, I never had so…). To be able to go twice a day to the gym now I’m out of bed at 6 AM and I’m working at 6:20 AM. If I don’t have work to do, I study (I’m back studying coding, C++ to be precise). If I’m not busy, I’ll make myself busy. I go to bed around 10 PM.
And why I’m able to do all that? Because I can. I enjoy doing it, I have created a discipline that works for me, and that’s the most important thing. I don’t think much about what will happen when I finish this 3 month block of training or how much weight I’d lost by then. I focus on doing the 9 sessions of the week, and more specifically, the next one and once there, in doing the next rep or run the next minute. Whatever is in front of me, because is the thing that I can control. I can’t see the future nor change the past, I only have the now, so I will make good use of it to the best of my capabilities. I plan for the future, of course, but I know that many things could (and will) happen that can change those plans.
One of the things that really work to keep good habits is keeping a record of them. Whatever they are, make a cross on the calendar for every day that you kept that good habit. Could be drinking more water, going to the gym more, running for 5 minutes more, whatever. Keep the crosses coming and then you’ll be so determined to keep your streak that you won’t ever consider breaking it. For me the streak is keeping the sessions coming.
And maybe one day something happens and you break the streak. Well then, don’t despair. That there is your Personal Best. Think why it happened and how to fix it and go again. This time you don’t only have a challenge, you also have a target. Failure is a fact of life, accept that it will happen to you. Try to not fail as much as you can, but be ready if it happens.
One of the most common mistakes people do when they set targets for themselves is attaching those targets to things they don’t have any control about. For example: Training really hard to compete in an event. And they train super hard, but then the event is cancelled, or they can’t go because they are injured, or sick, or any of the thousands and thousands of reasons that can make it not happen. And then, they despair. Oh, I worked so hard. I trained so much, and all that for nothing. It wasn’t for nothing! You were training to be able to compete at your very best, you got to your very best but you just didn’t do the test. The fact that you can’t go to a place with fancy lights and a guy talking to a microphone doesn’t change that! You were training to be able to, not to do.
Or maybe the training doesn’t go the way they wanted. Maybe their technique is still not good enough, maybe it’s simply because they are not good enough. Don’t despair then either. Now you know. You can analyse what happened. Get answers. Don’t fall to the easy traps of the mind of blaming whatever excuse you can think. Think really deep about why you failed. Try to fix it. If you reach the conclusion that you won’t never be able to achieve that, good, you have learnt a lot trying, use all the things you have learnt to try to achieve some other thing. Never become one of those persons that are only one thing.
As the title says, change only comes to those that have no fear, because if you are scared of failing then you won’t try. Don’t worry about that, worry about not learning, that’s the true failure.
When I go to high schools to talk to the students about coding, programming, languages and later on about life and the decisions we make, there’s something that I always say.
You’ll never be the person your parents want you to be. Or your friends, or your partner, hell, you’ll never even be the person your pet wants you to be. They will always have something to say about something that you have to change or whatever. If that’s impossible, what we have left? Being the person we want to be. So aim for that. And right now, I want to be the person that finishes a this intense 3 month training block. Because I know I can, and if I’m wrong, I’ll know that I did my best to try and will think about how make it better next time.
If an experience is going to be transformative then you need to be inspired by the coach. Over the last 5 years or the process of coaching and running #bobsgarage has changed me. Where I have come from and how my journey has developed has shaped and made the gym what it is today something that is more than just is more than just getting someone fitter stronger or leaner but giving them a deep change in their mentality around life.
This is done through the discipline of training, commitment of training, and consistency of training. Physical challenges in the gym are not just physical but also mentally challenging from a heavy back squat to a personal best on a 2k row, you need a strong mind in order to develop a strong body.
I was once told that I get my enduring mindset from my Mother. My mum Sheila is one of the toughest women I know, back when I was younger she ran a guest house with my Dad who is also called Robert. My mum had to at times single handedly run a busy guest house and she did it day in and day out for years until Rheumatoid Arthritis struck her down. I remember vividly one morning my mum lying on the sofa screaming in pain. She went on a lot of medication and battled with her health a lot, gave up smoking some time ago and drinking as well, she has had two hip replacements and one knee replacement. Having retired years ago now and separated from my Dad she lives alone and frequently enjoys golf. I often get her to practice getting up from her front and last weekend actually managed to teach her how to brace properly.
My Dad is a different story, equally hardy and has been referred to as Stoic. He ran the guest house for many years with my mum and they were once happy. However maybe it was the stress of the family or the constant nature of running your own business but he developed a strong relationship with alcohol and smoking. He has his vices and his problems but none the less he is my father and I love him. I have joked before that he is the hardiest soul I know. He got cancer of the oesophagus last year but was still doing DIY in my flat at the time. Last year we almost lost him, after his surgery because he wasn’t healthy and he didn’t have any reserves he struggled and combined with withdrawals from alcohol he was in intensive care, on ventilation and sedated for the whole of December, he pulled through and got out in February and is making a strong recovery.
They both helped me set up #bobsgarage they are both founders of what I have done and they are both founders of who and what I have become. I take my strength and ability to endure and persist from my Mum and my ability to get the fuck on with things from my Dad I guess.
I went through some challenges and changes myself through the years and it started with finding CF and then thinking this was great I can do it so I can coach it. That was obviously not the case and it took me a few years of learning from my mistakes and learning from the people I trained and the coaches I spent time with the main one being Andy Mckenzie. And eventually I got my PT qualification just this year.
My knowledge and experience didn’t change and develop I did. I changed and developed through the constant early mornings, late nights, ups and downs and highs and lows of coaching and running a business, the constant challenges and push backs from things I would get people to do. I have become more professional for sure thankfully over the years. Working out most days with some amazing people and just being around all these people and getting to know them all and be in their life has changed me forever. Just like their stories help me I hope that my story helps you.
I am not sure what sparked this blog post, I know that there is a need to continually underline the message that your business represents and that I think that the one that I want #bobsgarage to represent the most is transformative in body and mind. The experience and it is an experience it isn’t training, should be transformative and leave a lasting effect, I know it can’t be transformative unless the person who leads the charge sticks his head above the parapet and puts himself out their for people to see, judge and either follow or not.
I will always think of myself as the 21 year old I used to be even now I am 30 now and have gathered some good life experience, at times usually when your confidence is knocked or you have a set back, or are down or low I may go back to being that little fat kid from school, but through the process of reflection and gratitude I am then reminded how far I have come and how far I am still to go. Right now I am excited for this next chapter, the year of my 30’s having finally achieved my goal of getting the PT qualification I am rejuvenated in my vigour to reach out to more people and help them get fitter and stronger. Right now I am excited about the next 3 months as we have just started a new training block and I am also not drinking for the whole of the 3months, a chance to focus on my training, nutrition, coaching and business and have the chance to be at my best in many ways for the first time in my life just now.
Hopefully I can bring a few more into #bobsgarage to have the chance to transform themselves also.
If I work with someone long enough they cease to be a member or client and start becoming a friend most of these friendships will no doubt last a lifetime as the work we do is truelly transformative and the change and effect is not just felt by the member but also it will change me as a coach.
This can be said for my friend Dal who has been going through his fair share of challenges the last 3 years with his battles with his brain tumour. Around 2015 he was training with me after moving up from Wolverhampton where he used to do CF down south. I trained him for a while before he was diagnosed and had his first surgery and a year later I helped him come back with a gentle phased return, I would then go onto prehab him to before his second surgery. Dal’s work ethic was second to none that I can only compare to a couple of people that I have trained. He had been given a second chance and was driven, committed and dedicated. We had a couple of events to show our community’s support and we called the events ‘Do it for Dal’ which did two things raised money for the Brain tumour charity and also gave him a massive boost and showed him we were all behind him. These sessions evolved to become our monthly Adversity sessions that you see now.
Dals 3rd brain surgery was about 6 weeks ago, sadly I didn’t get to train Dal as much this time but his experiences and lessons he learned from what we had achieved last time we trained have still left their mark and built within him a strong mental strength that will carry him through this most challenging time in his life just now.
Dals last surgery was quite invasive and suffered a stroke down his left side, he is now at the Rehab hospital and the next 3 months are going to be some of the most challenging of his life, he will be fighting to stay mentally strong in this long journey and working hard to regain his ability to walk and do all the tasks that most of us take for granted so much. I will be visiting on the regular to make sure he keeps his spirits up and stays strong in many ways.
In todays society I think there is a tendency to just not bother, to not put yourself out there. Because we could fail, make ourselves look bad, it could hurt when it related to strength and fitness and learning new habits and getting fit is hard. We could fail so whats the point why even bother its too hard anyway?
Every now and then something comes out of no where like an illness, injury, accident, or loss of job or just you name it any crisis or troubles. Depending on our ability to deal with this sudden stressor will depend on our ability to handle it and deal with it and work through it and manage it. Developing a strong robust and enduring mindset can go miles into helping you with challenging times in your life and I am testament to this and so is Dal.
The challenge is for us to bridge the gap between the person we are and the person we want to be. To start living the life we want to lead, be the person we want to be or want to be seen to be. Dan John calls this seamlessness. that the person you want to be and think you are seen to be is the same person that everyone talks about in the end. This transparency and seamlessness comes from actually doing the things and achieving the things you will say you will do and committing to things that will challenge you and that your not sure you might be able to complete because they are taking you out of your comfort zone and past your self imposed limits like starting to train at my gym.
You have a choice when you face adversity and challenges in your life, you can let them break you down and fall apart or you can use them to learn about yourself, get stronger and come back with a more deeper character because that is how your character is formed through your experiences and challenges you have faced during your life.
For myself the last 5 years running this gym has been hugely transformative in strengthening not just my body but my very soul and mindset. It has creeped right into the depths of my soul and changed me forever. I don’t know when it happened but something has happened, a deep chemical change that allow me to over come some serious challenges and I am ready for many more.
Just now we have just begun our next 3 month training block which is timed perfectly. As the next 3 months will be crucial for Dal and my other member Ken both in different ways but equally important. For myself it will be 3 months of not drinking and focused work, working on training, coaching and nutrition. It could well be the most focused work yet in many ways and I am truly buzzing.
I will keep you all up to date on Dal and when the time comes the next ‘Do it for Dal’ until then why not challenge the status quo.
It can sometimes take a big event to almost reset or restart your brain or thinking as it were. For me I guess it was last nights 5 year anniversary party and all the drinks etc and the horrendous hangover this morning. It can also take time lots of time, you may take information in like I did a year ago at GymJones and store it and understand it but not truelly understand it. It takes time for your brain to process it and sometimes going back to something later on can help make it more meaningful and make more sense.
The thing I am getting at here is the way I train people and what I learnt at the GJ Intermediate seminar, what I have learnt since then, my trials and errors in trying to achieve my goals and others and how to implement the very best training plan. So from spending time with Marc Keys, Oli Jessop, Andy Mckenzie and ofcourse the one and only Bobby Maximus I have slowly developed my understanding on how best to train those that come to #BOBSGARAGE.
At the moment how members come and train just now they have two options follow whats on the board either a lower or upper body strength session, a circuit session, a bodyweight cardio and core session or the IWT session (Friday session) Those that want it follow periodised training in the form of either 12week strength program or 4 week strength program. But like the secrets to the universe it is an unfinished work and is not the end product. Eventually we will move to a 3 tiered system and you will either be on tier 1, 2 or 3.
Tier 1 is Foundation 1 is what all new members will be on for at least 6 months but can last up to 18months. For beginners you will be eased into training with 2-3 sessions a week and then building towards 5-10sessions a week. 1-2 hour sessions, hard training 5days a week minimum, Foundation 1 is about increasing work capacity above all else and the bodies ability to tolerate stress.
There has always been a need to find a system that incompasses the all round approach, the subject is massive with CF and that is where it began but to delve deeper we need to use this 3 tier approach and you yourself need to write a list 10 things you want to get better at, with the most important at the top and the least at the bottom and make sure you are working towards those goals every single session. If foundation 1 is about building volume then foundation 2 is about intensity and foundation 3 is about intensified volume. How do we find out what level we are meant to be in? some standards can help but most who walk through the door bar a few will be in F1. Some standards to achieve before moving to Foundation 2 which might be helpful but might not as sometimes you just reach a plateaux and then it is time to change the structure you could hit this at either 6months or 18months depending on the intensity of the sessions or how much work you put in.
I guess this has been triggered by the work I am starting to do writing programs for members for strength training but then thinking back at the intermediate seminar and looking back at the idea of having 3 levels of training programs Foundation 1,2,3 and dealing with the idea of the exerciser or the athlete but actually its more than that its learning to differentiate what level you should be at just started never trained before level 1, other end of the scale guy comes in been training since he was 11 deadlifts 250kg benches 130kg squats 210kg 2k row is under 6.50 and does the GymJones triathlon in 5mins and hits 620-630m on a 2min row IWT then that guy needs tier 3 programming or just an individualised approach to work on his specific weaknesses. I havnt quite worked out how I will deliver the 3 tier system just now as I am just writing monthly periodised programming for members but further down the line will look at a way to implement this 3 tier system and have members following programs on either tier 1, 2 or 3. Call it the project for the next 5 years and hopefully in that time once I have worked it out I may even go back to SLC and complete my Advanced Seminar and finally become a GJ Instructor some day. One can always dream.
But for now let me leave you with this, if you are only training 3 times a week don’t expect the results of someone who trains 6 times a week. And if you haven’t written a list of goals already no more than 10 then why don’t you go away and write them down and then spend the next 6months at least working towards achieving those goals.
I was going to title this blog post ‘you don’t get the results you want you get the results that you deserve’ but in reality it is a post about a long term member Jamie who triggered theses thoughts on training. Its also his birthday this week and so I figured I would write it as an ode to all his hard work he has invested in training at the gym over the years.
Jamie joined our gym around the time of 2014 with one of his good friends who turned out to be quite a character the legend that is John Morris more about him maybe in another post perhaps. He has been training hard for 4 years at this gym the last few years putting in 2hr shifts or so mostly 6 times a week and he works hard. He is consistent with his training and with his nutrition and probably eats the best out of the whole gym. I have watched him grow, get stronger and go through ups and downs. He has had a big effect on me and seeing him work his ass off day after day is indeed inspiring and has definitely helped push me. On the rare occasions I have been able to workout with Jamie it has been a pleasure and has made suffering whatever workout it was arbitrary.
A couple of years ago I took a trip too Slovenia with Andy Mckenzie and a group of coaches, we went to visit a guy he knew called Marck Goran in Maribor. The gym was amazing and the coach Marck himself was larger than life and very charismatic, there is something about Marck that makes him truly one of a kind. Anyway Jamie has been following Marck’s training for a year or so now and the workouts are grueling and long and tough but Jamie deligently gets through them each day and gets them done even if they last 3hrs or so. The training might not always be to my taste or I might not agree with it but one thing is for sure it is hella inspiring to see him crank them out day after day eat really well and get stronger, fitter and absolutely shredded in the process.
Ok enough about Jamie I have probably made his swell up big enough already now. The reason that I was triggered to write this post has been a few things first it was his birthday this week, secondly I am trying to tighten up on my physique, as well as continue to get stronger and fitter, I am always also dealing with members and progression, results, weight loss, getting people stronger and people just wanting to look fucking good. It got me back to this, you don’t get the results you want, you get the results you deserve and there is a big difference between going to the gym 3 times a week and going 6 times a week.
The results you are going to get are going to be determined by a number of things. Firstly the basics and foundations. This has been underlined by my work with Oli Jessop at G2G Coaching where I completed my Level 3 PT qualification last week. Making sure someone is moving correctly with underlining proper mechanics, and they are able to brace effectively is massive. Secondly making sure they are on a structured and well rounded periodised program is the next step, repetition is key so they get familiar with how to train and move well. Thirdly recording their results every session at a time from the weight on the bar to the reps they did to the time it took them too row 500m. As my old coach Ironmac used to say if its not tracked you don’t know how far you have come and how far you have to go. The next step is intensity this, I remember the first time I step foot into a commercial gym and I was doing everything and not getting any results and I asked the PT a guy named Andrew at the time what gives and he said Intensity, you should look at the intensity you do your training, less junk volume and more training at decent intensity to elcit a good adaption to the stimulus (GAS).
The next big step is nutrition, it has taken me 5 years and moving out from living at home, (gasp) that was last year. To understand what I need to do and the changes in my habits and difficult choices you have to make to eat well and support your training. I have only just started to get a handle on it as of late, roughly tracking what I eat daily, trying to hit enough protein and eating the right amount of carbs and not eating too much fat, and resisting the urge to have beers all week or pizza on a Wednesday or Thursday night but some protein, carbs and ofcourse vegetables. Now that I am starting to relay this onto all my members and clients alike they are having massive changes and with new members who come in its something we talk about right from the get go, trying to figure out what you roughly eat a day and what the percentage of that is protein, carbs and fat and then take small steps to make sure it is supporting your training and goals has helped massively to getting people stronger, fitter and leaner much faster than if we were to just focus on just working out but you probably knew that.
The hard work is not just about making sure you are moving the best you can and working on your nutrition though, it can be getting 8 hours sleep, because getting enough sleep can be like literally a magic pill, it maybe you drink too much or need to cut it out for a big challenge to get as fit or strong or shredded for some big challenge or goal or just cause its summer. It also means doing your accessory work if your a power lifter, taking lower percentage weeks and working on technique, realising when your over reaching and need a proper rest.
Another point to note is Bobby Maximus 130 hour rule, he states that it takes roughly 130 quality hours to get fit, that’s training hard 5 days a week for 6 months. You can reduce that 6 months but then the amount you will have to work will go up so 3 months would be twice a day Monday to Friday and once on Saturday. I did this program last year and it got me shredded and got my 2k row time down too 6.50.1 and I was pretty strong. I am not saying you have to train twice a day but what I am saying is that there is a big difference between training 3 times a week and 6 times a week, there is a lot to be said for consistence, persistence and small little gainz every fucking session they add up.
I feel like at this moment I am just about able to right the programming I have always wanted to write, individualised, GymJones inspired, and ask 100% from the people that decide to commit their time and money too me, as I can only coach a certain number of people and time is precious and its amazing too see people give their all, get results, progress and enjoy it all throughout the process I couldn’t have done it without the foundations of CF, my time with Andy my time at GymJones, the time I have spent with Marc Keys, Marck Goran and most recently the time I have spent with Oli Jessop.
I am away to reread Maximus Body.
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When I was sitting at my desk 5 years ago at a recruitment company, and I said to the person next to me I wanted to open a gym, they laughed in my face. How dare I have such a big and challenging goal and how dare I think that I could for 1 run a gym and 2 do something I had never had any experience in. Back 5 years ago maybe more I lacked confidence, and the ability to stand out from the crowd or stand up and be counted for my beliefs and what I wanted to stand for. It was a regular occurrence at school that my old school friend Dave would say I needed to stand up for myself and be more confident, I just wasn’t very good at pushing back when people were rude, talked shite about me or just pushed me about. Couple years down the line and I am out of Uni and doing CF and the same is said to me by my old coach Jonny one good example is of a morning session and getting ready for a wod and setting up a plyo box and I just let a girl take it off me without saying anything.
The day I started standing up for myself and being counted was the day I decided to stick my neck out and do something different, deciding to open a CF gym with little to no experience or qualifications was gonna do that. I was told I just wasn’t cut out to being a coach, I wasn’t a good fit. I wouldn’t listen and never have to that.
When I started this 5 years ago I just had this belief that what I did had changed my life had become a rock which grounded me in times of struggle and I just loved feeling fitter and stronger and the way it made me feel. However there were still challenges when it came to confidence and standing up for what I belief in. I didn’t have the knowledge, understanding, experience or just confidence from a few years of making the mistakes learning from them and so was still stuck in the area of my life where I still failed to believe in myself.
I think this started to change around the time I started to find GymJones and its training and the trips I made out to Salt Lake City and through spending time with Bobby Maximus who took the Foundation seminar and Intermediate seminar.
The reason why I am writing a post about having belief in yourself is because what I found out in the GymJones seminars and my training over the last 5 years is this. You can improve your mental strength and your power of belief my how you train. Put it simply doing something you though that wasn’t possible like open a fucking gym, row 600m in 2mins or row a 2k in under 6.50 or squat 180kg, just taking it further than you thought possible, taking it past your limitations or shall I say predisposed, doing something you thought wasn’t possible will improve your mental strength.
As I have found this last 5 years training is massively a mental battle, yes you need a base level of fitness, strength and mobility but you will get to a point and that point is a line in the sand that will either see you stay comfortable in your own limitations, or you will cross it, lift weight that scares you, row that extra bit harder to beat your previous time, eat that little bit better, eat more protein and the right amount of the right foods and drink less beer, all these things, getting stronger than we ever have before, fitter, losing the weight and having the body we desire, is all a mental battle.
Improving your mental strength and game can transfer over to your day to day life as well its not just about that Friday conditioning session performance, by increasing your belief in yourself in your performance in the gym and what you can do you increase your belief in your confidence and how you act outside of the gym, in the office, with relationships, and social occasions, if you have the confidence and belief you have built inside the gym it can come with you and help you in all areas in life not just strength and fitness.
The photo I put up I chose as it is a picture on me climbing the gymnastic ropes in Venice beach in California probably about 6 years ago, I did a road trip from San Diego to San Fran on my own and I thought I was shredded I wasn’t very strong or but I did have a tenacious goal and was crazy optimistic, I am thankful for that past self that had the balls to set this all up and I am looking forward to the next 5 years.
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This weekend I had the privilege of attending a long time school friend and a #bobsgarage original member James Magee’s wedding. It was a truly magnificent day and it felt awesome to be part of such a special day and moment in his life. I have known James since school and I have seen him develop and change and evolve over the years through his challenges and ups and downs. He is an inspiration in business and life and a truly lovely and down to earth caring guy. I was inspired by the day and to be able share in this special moment in his life. I was taken aback at how much positive energy was in the room, the sun helped but everyone was smiling and it just brought out the best in everyone and myself.
I have been inspired by James and the challenges he has faced and gone through and continues to go through, by the progress he strives for in his business daily from 5am to late into the hours of the night. I regularly get insights into challenges people face and go through, I spoke to two people yesterday at the wedding that absolutely lit a fire inside me just like James does. One was the vicars wife who told me her massive struggles with cancer and tumours at which I was immediately able to relate to with my Father last year having cancer of the oesophagus, an amazing women and ferociously strong in mind and body. I also spoke to another a man who I had met on one of our countless drunken nights out when I was younger but couldn’t quite put the face to the name who had also gone through struggles with illness, I was inspired by both of them, by their stories, by the day itself, by the fact that everyone was just so positive and happy and how it made just everything so much more of a pleasure and everything else so effortless and easy. May I even say it made my dance moves flow like smooth as silk. Anyway I digress.
I put up this picture of me at the start of this journey in 2013 back when I was training in my mums garage, I think James was one of the first guys I did a session in the original space I put him through some horrible stretches and workouts. I have gone through a lot of challenges and ups and downs over the last 5 years but this photo has always stood out to me throughout, I was optimistic, completely lacking experience or knowledge and was about to bight off far more than I ever realised, if I knew back then what I know now and the undertaking and everything that has gone with it I am not sure I would have done it. But I am so glad I did.
So here is to being inspired, fool hardy and having so much optimism it is tantamount to dangerous risky decisions. Those kettlebells are a direct reflection of the size of cahoonas you need to be packing to have the boldness dare I say it borderline arrogance to take on something that has helped and reached out to so many people over the years and changed the lives of many who I have had the opportunity to train and coach. So if your sitting their reading this wanting to make a change, lose weight, get stronger or fitter or maybe your training has plateaued and you are needing help taking it to the next level in your strength or fitness or want to get shredded for the summer why not get in contact today and start your journey.
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I have been reading and rereading a lot lately a book by Derren Brown called Happy. It is a lot about what makes us happy and how to be happy. I must confess I am not much of a reader and since getting it around about this time last year I have still not finished it. But I do come back to it and reread it and Continue to use it as inspiration and guidance in my life. It talks a lot about philosophy and psychology. The reason why I bring it up and am righting about it just now is because some of it is directly applicable to training and coaching people. In the persuit to get yourself and others fitter, stronger and healthier there is much that can inspire and apply that you might not think would relate to strength and fitness.
The concept is by a man called Daniel Kahneman and it is the story of our two selves. He describes the two selves that resides within us the experiencing self and the remembering self. When we look back over the years it will be the remembering self that will judge whether we took happiness from these years. Some of those decisions we made over the years may not have made our experiencing selves happy but in the end would have made our remembering self happy or to put a better way would benefit our future self.
Lets put this into context now. Its Sunday night some of us may have had a few shandies Friday and maybe even Saturday night. Feeling a little fragile today? or maybe just a touch of the Sunday Fear. Our commitments to the gym possibly at 6am on Monday morning or even after work at 5.30pm will be painful maybe for the experiencing self, but it will be something that when we get done our future self or remembering self will benefit from. We have done some strength training, getting our muscles stronger, improving our fitness and helping us lose weight if we need to.
Lets take another example the person, who is currently inactive, you work 9-5 and exercise or even going to the gym is just not on the agenda, maybe your overweight, maybe you need to get stronger or fitter for an event or maybe you just had that wake up call one day showing you that you weren’t as fit as you thought you were or just not fit at all or just realised that your in a bad situation putting on weight, alcohol consumption is fairly high, eating is bad, and their is no exercise routine. When you are faced with that amount of uphill struggle the experiencing self will have a big pull after work or even before work, so trying to change habits like what you eat and how much or just getting up early enough for the gym or making sure you go to the gym after work and not go home and sit on the couch drink beer, eat chips and watch the tv is hard to be frank. But if we think about the benefits to our future selves or think about our remembering self. Changing our habits and working through the pain of new and different things like eating differently, exercising regularly, doing regular strength work, and cardiovascular work then the benefits to our future self is massive we just have to remember this when it comes to the time when we have to do something painful like, get up at 5am, or go to the gym after work, or cut down our drinking, or not overeat or doing burpees, or doing a 2k row.
Another example would be making sure to not neglect your conditioning. A lot of times we can get focused on strength work and forget about balance, we need structure and periodization to our strength training but if we are training for all round strength and fitness and to look good as well then we must not forget the breathing component to finishing our workout, not always but at least 1 out of 3 days and it could be argued that if done right you could do a small amount of cv work at the end of every workout most times. That’s not forgetting the other three sessions we have on our training program at #bobsgarage the gymjones session which is in its nature about higher reps, sweating and getting out of breath in a threshold style workout often including weights, or bodyweight or machines or a mixture and in different workout formats. Or our bodyweight cv and core workout which is a combination of press-ups and pullups then some interval training then some core work. Last but not least our FYF session or as it stands for the Fuck you Friday session a fun team based format session that is all about getting out of breath, sweating and raising that heart rate. You see we are either a cardio bunny or a strong weight lifter, what you sometimes see is the fast ones the ones that run all the time or do lots of cv work will tend to avoid heavy weight training because it is a struggle or because it is not in their tool box or because they just don’t enjoy it or you have the other person who is able to lift weights really well and to a high level but doesn’t do much cv because quite frankly it hurts, when you don’t have a high aerobic and anerobic capacity the feeling of the oxygen being sucked out of you is torture but this is why we must constantly keep in touch with our CV work so that it is not neglected.
So next time you are struggling with a new habit or challenge or getting to the gym be it after work or in the morning or just struggling to get your ass in gear to get in contact with me to get started think about your future self and the benefits you will give them and happiness from doing the stuff you really didn’t want to do but would benefit you later on in your life.
Your mind is a powerful thing. It is I would argue your strongest asset. It will carry you through the good times and the bad times but whether or not your body is strong or not or injured or able your mind will still be their functioning and strong if you let it.
I have often when speaking to fellow coaches when they are injured say, but its ok you still have your greatest strength your greatest power to affect people, you still have the power of your mind, to inspire, help and change peoples lives.
I have been most affected of late by one mans ability to do this and that is my new personal training client Ken Talbot. Ken came to me through a referral from another amazing person Lisa Wright who is one of my committed members. At first I was unsure if I could work with Ken as he is wheel chair bound and suffers from a condition called CRPS stemming from a accident about 10 years ago.
Long story short I met with Ken, he explained to me he wanted my help to help break the hand bike land speed record in Nevada. He suffers from constant pain due to his condition and injury years ago and unfortunately isn’t able to take any medication for it. So he has to use the power of his will and mental strength to manage the pain. He has to consciously make an effort to fight it and not give in. This in itself would be inspiring just getting on with life and running his own business but he doesn’t just want to do that he wants to set the land speed record for the recumbent bicycle.
Considering the amount of pain he is in constantly, there is no let up by the way, the fact he barely ever gets any sleep and the fact he has to go through mind exercises to block of the pain each night and each morning he really is an inspiration. He will then come in the gym, smile and work his ass off and give it 100% on everything we do. He gives it his best no matter what and he works hard and gets amazing results. He is a committed, disciplined and one of the most mentally strong individuals I have ever come across and continues to inspire me every day I train him.
Ken could quite easily have said, that was enough, I am done fighting, I give up, I can’t do this anymore, and no doubt it has come into his mind a few times at points when he has had disabilitating pain. I for one am so glad that he didn’t. That he continued and still does continue to battle on and not just survive but strive for something even more. He is striving to break a god damn world record and wants to thrive and he has done this all with the power of his mind!
He will routinely do 2 sessions a day roughly around 90 mins each a strength session and a cv session on his bike indoors. He has his own business and is very independent and works hard at his nutrition and getting that dialed in to get his best possible recovery, performance and strength gainz.
I will give you further updates on Ken in the future and we may even look at hosting him at the gym for a talk about his life and what he has gone through and what he is trying to achieve.
You can take control of your life too, maybe your looking for a reboot, reset and to get back into the gym? Maybe you are in need of a change or just stuck on a plateaux and not progressing in fat loss, how your body looks, or just not at the fitness or strength you would like to be at? Or maybe you just keep getting injured when you train and your sick of the way you train?
You need to make a conscious decision to change to stop doing the things you have been doing so long, to change the habits you are so stuck in, you may need my help for accountability or to provide structure in the chaos that is trying to get fit, strong and healthy. Well I am ready for you when you decide to make a conscious decision to change and to start taking control.
As always the mind comes first.
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